by YWee
Things My Mother Did
Nov 3, 2011 at 9:10 am in Bloggers, Featured, Parenting by YWee
Things my mother did..
I don’t know if you are like me. I love my mother. We are practically best friends and we would do practically anything for each other, but there were some things my mother did that I said I would never do, especially with my kids.
I wouldn’t snap at my kids. I wouldn’t correct out of anger. I would be patient. I had a long list of things I would never do. Guess what? I find myself doing just the things I said I would not do. I can’t for the life of me explain why. I didn’t like those things, so why do I do them?
It gave me cause for concern. You see, I turned out right. My mother must have done something right because we are a close knit family. My parents, siblings and I have practically no secrets but that didn’t mean there were some things that I wanted to differently. Why then did I end up doing what I didn’t want to do? I sound like Apostle Paul right?
Boom! Found the answer. It’s called genes. You see, those genes are so strong that they have the power to plant their roots firmly in you and make you behave exactly like your parents. The same way you look like your dad, talk like your mum, and share certain characteristics, the same way you carry some of their character traits.
Oh MY! That means I’m done for. I’m going to repeat the same mistakes. That is disheartening. My children are going to do the same thing too! Isn’t there any hope?
Yippee! I have GOOD NEWS FOR YOU. There is actually hope. It is called Retraining. What do I mean? You need to teach yourself new character traits. It means I have to learn patience and self control. How do I do that? With God’s help and loads of practice. It means you have to learn a new program. Your computer has to be upgraded and it is a lot of work, but it is worth it.
Why? If I want to raise an excellent child, I have to be an excellent me, so that my genes are upgraded and she picks the new genes. How is that possible? I don’t know but it works because somehow genes also are fed by repeated actions. Therefore, the making of that great and excellent child starts with you.
contributed by Sola Oguche-Agudah
If my kids can turn out the same way I did then I’ll be happy! My mum bless her is the best. Frankly, I don’t think I picked up enough of her traits and genes! So I’m constantly working on improving those parts of myself. Like being more patient, calmer and easy going. So there’s still lots of work for me when the kids come along…
Nice article… My mom was the best mom i could ever ask for. She is a godly and likeable person but i think i am more patient. just pray to be the best. So help me God…
Nice Article. I think i do believe in the gene theory because there were some certain traits my mother had that i personally told myself i wouldn’t be like her. One of the greatest is she is a control freak ( which arose from wanting things to be done perfectly and in good time). I also do like things to be done perfectly and in good time but i didn’t realize the control part of it was sufficing small small until my close friend back then pointed it out. For years i consciously cautioned myself but you know it’s hard when you want things done perfectly and in good time. Someone like my husband likes to take his time and doesn’t mind doing things at the last minute when it would definitely be a rush and you would end up forgetting somethings and or they would go wrong. I try to balance it, the ones i can do on my own i do and leave the rest( and i also consciously tell myself not to worry) which i think is a great difference from me and my mom. She is an aggressive control freak who doesn’t mind stepping on toes to get what she wants but i don’t like aggression and i really do put other peoples feelings in consideration.
Retraining i must say really works but you have to be willing to do it….
Nice article. I’m still working on re training myself!n