Moti’s Mums’ view on the life of LagosMums
So my girlfriend and I were talking recently about how motherhood is for we naija mums here in the Unites States. How challenging and exhausting it can be, having to be so many things at the same time to ensure your family schedule runs smoothly. I for one have 2 daughters, ages 8 and 5. Between them, they have soccer, girl’s scouts, dance and choir practice. As you can imagine, mummy is the organizer of their schedules. From the pick ups to the drop offs. Daddy also performs chauffeur duties, but as you can imagine, the bulk of it falls on me. So it was on one of those days, exhausted from the go, go, go that is my life that conversation turned from how do we do it, to I wish I was one of those Lagos mums who seem to have endless cheap labor available to them.
To be honest, I realize that there is a lot of work involved in raising children regardless of what continent you live on. But I have to say, Lagos mums seem to have it way easier than those of us out here in the western world. For example, how is it that a ton of my friends in Lagos have a help for each child. They have so much help that it looks like the maid has her own maid! I am so tired most of the time that my idea of free time is when I’m not running around like a chicken with its head cut off. To unwind, I often peruse sites like BellaNaija and check out entertainment rags like Ovation and Naija Entertainment.
I often feast my eyes on pictures of my mates at events: premiers, weddings and so on. Make up looking all flawless with the latest designer this and that. Not looking harassed or tired in the least. It was checking out one of these pictures that I saw a friend of mine who just had a baby at a wedding. She was sitting next to her hubby, gisting with someone and lo and behold, her new baby son was right next to her – being watched by the maid!!! I almost fell out of my chair. She was at the event, with her husband, son and maid in tow! I was like chai see my life. I envy you lagos mums let me not lie. You all seem to have it made. From the gateman, to the driver, to the washer man and then the cook to boot!
But can I ask you ladies something?? As you have all this help available to you, how is it that a lot of you are not taking care of yourselves like you should?
In as much as I envy you lot, I have seen some pictures that gives me cause for concern. You people are packing on the makeup and the pounds alike. I have seen quite a lot of you and have not recognized you. I thought as pa you have all this help (and have less to do), you will be spending more time at the gym or spa or whatever luxurious spot is all the rage now. But no, you are not doing that. You are sitting at home, having Mulikat and Courage get this and that and you are not taking care of yourself.
So this brings me back to my girlfriend and I. Even though I have girl’s scout on Mondays, dance on Fridays and Soccer on Tuesdays, I still have time to power walk 3 times a week. She in turn runs 10-12 miles on the regular and has two boys. If I had the help you all had, mhen Naomi Campbell will have nothing on me! What are you guys doing with all your free time? Like seriously? I would like to know. Before you bite my head off, I know it’s not everyone that has gained all this weight, but enough of you have to make me mention it. I love you girls and I love the “life” of the lagos mum and all it affords but seriously, does Lagos mum life = Madame status? If that is the case, we need to seriously redefine that so we don’t start looking 40 when we’re only 30!
Contributed by Moti’s Mum, based in the US, she is a mum to two lovely daughters.
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