SHOCKER: Husband gives Wife public beating
As the popular saying goes “wonders shall never end”, but I usually like to add “in Lagos”.
I have lived in Lagos almost all my life and despite my fascination about this busy hub and its crazy everyday life; I must admit that not everything about Lagos amuses me.
So on this faithful day, I’m in a public ‘danfo’ bus and everything is going on as usual; passengers keeping to themselves, driver driving recklessly and tapping the horn repeatedly like he was trying to produce a beat for Don-Jazzy; to top that, the conductor aggressively demands the fare but is not ready to give back change. After a couple of minutes of the bumpy ride, the bus stopped to pick a passenger,an event I rarely noticed as I was busy pinging with my hubby and blushing the whole time- then all of a sudden I heard someone give a passenger a slap and when I say dirty, this slap was really dirty.
I looked up and beyond the mounting chaos in the vehicle to see a middle-aged man hitting a new passenger, who happened to be a middle aged lady, on the face several times. The man was outside the bus and he somehow managed to cling to the bus to accomplish his evil deed. Typical of Lagos folks, passengers in the bus started shouting and cursing at the man as the bus ground to a halt. The slapper was now shouting in Yoruba language, “I will kill you, I will kill you’”. The passengers asked him what the lady had done to warrant such treatment and the next thing that ensued gave me the shocker of my life…. the assailant replied, ‘she is my wife”!
Living in Lagos… a land mass of 3,345 kilometers and about 10 million people from different tribes, different backgrounds and with varying levels of sanity… it is expected I suppose that one day I would come across such an outrageous reality. This man is indeed humiliating his wife publicly, demeaning her dignity and all for what reason you will ask? He wants custody of the child!
I might not be fully aware of the state of this couples’ relationship, but with what I have seen and heard from my position on the bus, I do not doubt that this man is not in the right state of mind to mingle with civilized society, how much more take care of a family or single-handedly raise a child? I was enraged no doubt! How can a woman subject herself to such treatment? How does one avoid such treatment? Is this what marriage is about? Is this the real definition of “for better or worse’? Is there no one to protect women such as this lady from such brutality? what is this society turning into, a man beats a woman in the open and nothing happens? So many questions churning in my head…. Can someone please make meaning of this situation because I cant!
Your thoughts, advices, experiences are welcome. Is there ever a reason to justify domestic violence?
contributed by Mayowa
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