by mayowa O.
SINGLE PARENTING…. Do’s and Dont’s
Apr 8, 2012 at 1:25 am in Bloggers, Featured by mayowa O.
I was hopping about town one hot Lagos afternoon. Jumping from ‘danfo’ to ‘danfo’ as I normally do on days my hustle takes me out on the streets and it just ‘came’ to me… single parenting.
In today’s society and especially this culturally blessed and cursed part of the world, every human has got limits. From the young adult to the parent. So many rules; the logical ones, the superstitious ones, the ones we all know are stupid yet we still live by… all sorts of rules.
Even married adults are given rules. Don’t do this, don’t do that. As a wife, you do this, this is how you treat your in-laws, that is how ‘we’ do it in our ‘land’…. I think I’m beginning to sound like something from a Nollywood movie.
In line with my thought patterns which have picked on single parenting, I am curious to know what those ‘unwritten’ rules are concerning single parents, particularly, single mothers.
I know a good number of young and beautiful single mums, who are doing the best they can to raise their children the best way they can. They do a good job of it as well, but I know of a truth that every woman needs a man. No matter how tough on the exterior you seem to be, you got a heart darling and it’s soft and mushy, it needs loving. Long and short, they need a hubby who will also love their baby.
In the event that a young unmarried mummy finds a date, society will follow that story like E! Online follows a celebrity crack case. They start keeping taps on who she is seeing, when they go out, when they come in, if the guy stays over or not…
Now my questions are:
Are there do’s and dont’s for single mums?
Is the dating game any different for single mums?
Are there any rules for single mums who are still in the marriage market?
Does having a child make a lady less marriageable?
Got answers? Please don’t hold them back. COMMENT!
Contributed by Mayo
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You are quite right Bonita. Society doesn’t always help some of us. Its bad enough to be a single mum…society adds a dirty slap to it.
The truth of the matter is everybody wants a fresh start, nobody wants to marry a woman that has a child/children. Its only in few cases that u ll c a man that is so desperate to marry a woman with kidsan vice versa. Even in those few cases there ll b obtacles from family members, imagine ur young adult son bringing a lady for the first and introducing her as his wife to be and you find out that she has a child. So that is our african mentality. That is why they find it difficult getting married, most times they end up marrying divorcees with children too or older men except for the few lucky ones