Diary of a LagosMum | What to do when the Mascot at a Childrens Party is Inappropriate?
Children’s parties in Lagos have taken on a new dimension, you can’t go to a party nowadays where they don’t have the bouncy castles, the soft play area, the train tracks, the entertainer, face painters, cotton candy, popcorn, kiddie menu versus the adult menu, cake and cupcakes etc. It almost seems like a cloning exercise now where the parties have the same theme and you even start to recognize the same entertainers and the same games.
You tell your child you are going to a party and she immediately says we are going to the bouncy castle? It is not considered a real party for your child if there is no bouncy castle. At this party I went to recently there were the general expected items such as the bouncy castles. What was different was the inappropriately behaved Mascot characters! There was A Shrek and Fiona, never mind that the costumes were not padded appropriately so the costumes tended to “hang” off the body of those wearing them (why is that by the way that the Mascots here look hungry?)
I did notice very quickly that the Fiona was very jovial; I am pretty confident it was a he because of the body stature under the un-padded costume, he appeared very happy and would dance at every opportunity that he got. What was shocking though was the randy nature of Fiona’s dancing, it started off with him kinda staring down different mummies at the party and he would kind of shimmy and stand and stare at a mummy and would do a dance, kind of touching himself, several times he would touch and appear to pump up his fake breasts and caress them at any random opportunity. He got up close to one of the adults at the event and dipped down low to dance with the adult. He later would just every now and then kind of shimmy across to my side of the table which was close to the center of the games and activities and look on suggestively (all within the constraints of Fiona’s head) do a quick dance and move on. At a point I wondered if he was “high”
By the end of the party I felt “violated” somehow, felt we had a sick person under this mask who was acting out impure thoughts. I was watching out to ensure he didn’t touch any child or get close to any of the kids, i think if he did i would have flown there and caused a scene. To top it off later on in the day, where he had steadily gotten bolder, he and the “Shrek” got close and basically did a grind dance, at this point I thought come on!!
As I spoke to a few mums later at the party…All I said was “hmmm this Fiona” and they immediately responded “Are you noticed too? This is a rather randy Fiona o” another mum mentioned “I wonder what is wrong with this Fiona, doesn’t “it” know children are around”
When I relayed the story to my husband later, he asked such a simple question…Why didn’t you say something either directly to the Fiona or to the mum of the child having the party to call them to order. I actually felt surprisingly dumb after he asked such a simple and basic question and I dare say I do wonder why none of us said anything? Perhaps it’s because we are also guilty of dancing inappropriately? Were we scared to speak up? Are we used to inappropriateness nowadays? Are we guilty of ignoring too much? Indifferent? Think everything is cute and “L-O-L”?
I know I plan to get the name of the entertainment company and report the behavior to their “owner” and to be sure I don’t use them for my childs’ party.
But seriously as Parents we must speak up, we must be responsible for everything that our children see and are exposed to that are within our control.
A Children’s party is supposed to be one of the innocent places we should be able to go…please we can’t allow Mascots, people shielded by their mask to be inappropriate in front of children. For all we know this person under the mask has some nasty thoughts and intentions…. At the next party you see this happen please speak up! I know I will!by blogger Diary Adventures of LagosMums photo courtsey of squiddo.com