by YWee
Diary of LagosMum | Nanny using FaceBook?
Jun 19, 2012 at 10:16 pm in Bloggers, Diary Adventures of LagosMums, Featured, Featured Blogger by YWee
Nanny on FaceBook?
What do you do or how do you feel when you notice that your domestic staff has a Facebook account? Mums not sure how many of you have had this happen to you? But here I was on my Facebook page when I get a friend suggestion…I notice it was my nanny’s name but not being sure I click on the picture and low and behold it is my nanny. In a very happy looking shot and to top it off she took the picture in my compound (I know it is my compound from the background) I also see in the background the children’s slide.
Wow so it is definitely her and she does look quite “fly” and I have a multiple thoughts running through my head. One of them being that the photo shows that it was uploaded a week ago and it was uploaded via a mobile device…So next question is whether she is able to access the internet through her phone? We do have the wireless internet on most of the time at home and we don’t have a security password.
So I continue on the fact finding mission finding out how many friends she has, her interest shows “interested in men”, her status shows that she is in a relationship, I browse through her friends to see who they are and how many.
So question is what do I do? do I discuss this with her? is she entitled to her rights and its not my place to say anything? I am thinking of the security concerns of her being on Facebook…putting pictures up there, meeting people, men luring her and or asking for pictures of the house, the children. All sorts of thoughts are running through my head.
Do I become her friend on Facebook????
I need your advise here what would you do how would you handle this? Do I lock my internet at home? Do I mentioned it to her? do I use it as an opportunity to train her on the responsible uses of Facebook and ask her how she uses the site pointing out the safety do’s and dont’s…
Advise please!!
Thanks for the advice Dia and Emma, you have both touched on the balance issue between trusting staff, security concerns and freedom in todays world. I will set some rules around use and pictures and lock our wifi
I’m with Dia on this one, you can’t police your staff. I have friends with homes full of CCTV cameras who check their staff’s phones and pockets often. Personally, I can’t live like that. If I don’t trust you enough to leave you be then you should not be in my house.
Security concerns are real but also exist when our girls meet random guys on the bus who take their phone number. I would definitely lock up the wifi, let her burn her credit jor!
The reality is that everyone now has access to the internet and are learning how to social network – I don’t think its a bad thing necessarily. I have had both my driver and an old mopol popping up on my “people you may know” tab which I found hilarious.
Quick advice is yes talk to her but then just leave her be. Maybe pop on to her profile page once in a while to check things out and be explicit – no photos of your home or kids should be anywhere near her page.
This is a difficult one!
I do think she’s entitled to have a Facebook account – but I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to be friends with her. Having said that, it might be a good idea to talk to her about your worries, let her know how dangerous the Internet can be. And yes, I would lock your Internet. As long as her account is ‘open’, you can always see her wall and see what she’s up to…