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Who is ’Loving’ your Child
Advocacy against child sexual abuse. Training and counseling on prevention techniques and support of victims.
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WILYC (Who Is ‘Loving’ Your Child) posted an update in the group Who is 'Loving' your Child:
A couple of weeks back I was having a chat with my children (boy-13 & girl- 9). My daughter had come home earlier wanting to know what virginity meant, how people mate and if mating was fun. my first thought was ”where did she get all that from” the next thought that immediately followed was ”think up the right answers fast”! so I called a sit down with both of them so we could discuss it. I didn’t just want to rattle answers that would satisfy her present curiosity instead i saw an opportunity to not only give bible based answers (Christians that we are) but also find out what my 9th grader and my 6th grader had heard about it. Wish it was that easy! I have now come to the conclusion that the 13years old of my time is the 8-9 of today! When i think about the questions discussed and answered that fateful day I cannot but wonder as to how their mind works. I kept a straight and expressionless face throughout the discussion but believe me my mind was whirling at the level of questions that was fired at me and the way they were formed. It showed that whatever children are passing around (which is in most cases wrong) is a lot more detailed than we would want them to know at certain ages. THE INTERNET IS NO HELP!!!
I strongly believe it’s time for parents to address issues, especially those pertaining to sex and all that has to do with it before they learn from the ”ever eager to pass on what i heard-read-saw mini teachers”. I feel the age of protecting them from these issues is long gone, so we should arm ourselves to teach all that is necessary any time an opportunity presents itself, it could be something seen on TV that would be create an opening, or a line in a song, whatever it is we should be prepared to use these opportunities to answer questions they are reluctant to ask as well as subtly instil our values along with it.
I cultivated the habit of answering questions truthfully, practically, logically and i finish off with what the bible has to say about it. I leave room for healthy arguments and discussions, that way they can think it through and thus be able to defend their answers should it contradict whatever is said among their peers about the topic. *sigh* Parenting!
WILYC, you are so right about the fact that our children ask questions in way that if we don’t answer them properly they will definitely get the answers somehow. And as parents the first instinct might be to shoosh them or wonder why they are asking…but it is better they ask us and we are able to give them truthful answers. the question i have though is what is appropriate at what age? is there too much information at a certain stage?
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WILYC (Who Is ‘Loving’ Your Child) posted an update in the group Who is 'Loving' your Child:
A child’s first and closest friend should be the parent. We should be approachable enough for our children to find it quite comfortable to confide in us. We should strive to be their most trusted source of information and a reliable sounding board. Being a parent is much more than paying bills and providing for their needs, it’s about being learning to balance being a parent and setting rules and being a friend they can turn to and trust to always be there.
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WILYC (Who Is ‘Loving’ Your Child) posted an update in the group Who is 'Loving' your Child:
Protecting a child is every adults duty, as much as we teach our children protection techniques, we as parents have a greater duty to educate ourselves and equip ourselves with information on child sexual abuse, its prevalence, signs to look out for, and prevention techniques.
Protect The Child, Save the future! -
WILYC (Who Is ‘Loving’ Your Child) posted an update in the group Who is 'Loving' your Child:
Protecting a child is every adults duty, as much as we teach our children protection techniques, we as parents have a greater educate ourselves and equip ourselves with information on child sexual abuse, its prevalence, signs to look out for, and prevention techniques.
Protect The Child, Save the future! -
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