Diary Adventures of LagosMums: DALM | Apology to parents
Two kids later and I am writing an apology to parents, I want to find every parent I ever judged their parenting skills and (or) method and apologize to them for ever trying to imagine I could do the parenting thing much better.
You know what I mean..You know those kids you see throwing tantrums in the stores and you cut your eyes sideways at the parents and think to yourself…They need to be firmer with thier kids! or you say to yourself “my kids would never try that with me”??
Or you know that mother you know who never seems to have time for herself and you think gosh when I become a mother I will make sure I balance it better and be sure to have me time to take care of myself. Please which mother thinks there is enough time for having your hair neat, keeping your manicure and pedicure always fresh? Makeup always flawless……when there are kids in tow.
Bottom line is that parenting is one of the most all encompassing roles you could ever have. I constantly compare notes with my friends in the Western World who don’t have access to domestic help and though they are more frazzled, parenting in Lagos isn’t a walk in the park either. Domestic staff though easily accessible here are SERIOUSLY lacking in quality.
Very few people with sometimes multiple nannies can truly be comfortable with the staff they have at home taking care of their kids. Multiple stories abound with nanny’s who do things from petty crimes to the more heavy duty crimes (God forbid we encounter these)
I think I am just getting to the point where I am able to carve out time for all the things I want to try and be – Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Friend, Employer, Employee, House Manager….. while trying to look stylish in Lagos that is a discussion for another day! This is really a shout out and a show of appreciation to all the parents raising their children and all the blessings and challenges that come with it. It is not easy but it is oh so wonderful.
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