Our Lagosmums mum of the month is Ayodeji Oyinloye-Lawrence. Wife and Mum of three, CEO of El-Cubed International, Counsellor, Coach, Therapist, Social Entrepreneur, and Ministry Coordinator and soon-to-be Author.
Please tell us about yourself.
My name is Ayo Oyinloye-Lawrence. I am a highly efficient people and systems organiser, solving complex problems that deliver personal and organisational bliss. My Tribe knows me as the Queen of Premium Family Life Practice, The Transformational Coach. I am from a Family of 5 children. The lastborn to Late Sir Chief Ayodele Oyinloye and Lady Chief (Mrs) Adenike Oyinloye. My husband is Oluwafemi Bernard and we are blessed with three lovely trailblazers, Oluwatosin, Oluwatoyin, and Oluwatamilore.
I am a graduate of Mathematics with a Post Graduate Diploma in Computer Science. Also, I am the Co-Founder, MD/ CEO and Lead Consultant at EL-CUBED International Limited. I host the Balanced ME™ Show which is all about Love, Life and everything in between.
I am the Convener of Hannah’s Conference of The Praying Hannah’s Ministry and the Founder of GrandCoeur Empowerment Initiative.
Can you share more about all the hats you wear?
Wife, Mum, Sister, In-law, Cousin, Aunt, Counsellor, Coach, Therapist, Social Entrepreneur, Ministry Coordinator and soon-to-be Author. I am launching my first book titled- LIVING-LOVING-LAUGHING The Balanced ME™ on the 27th of December 2022, which happens to be my 47th birthday!
Share one unexpected thing about you.
I can go to bed for the day as early as 7 pm and be up by 3 am.
How did you meet your husband and how long have you been married?
We met at the University of Ilorin. He was my Overcomer’s Class Teacher, like a Bible Study teacher in my 100L days, but he proposed towards the end of my 300L. We did not start out as friends but did over the years – it was a bit of a tough journey, grateful we were able to navigate the curve. Now I encourage younger ones to ensure they marry their friend
We are 22 years married – 2nd December 2000 to 2nd December 2022.
Do you and your spouse have the same parenting style?
Yes at the moment. But we did not start out the same way.
Can you tell us one of the funniest things your child has said?
My child told me not to think of having another child.
What are some ways children & parenting are different from when you were growing up?
We are able to rub minds. Hear them out. Allowing them to tell us where we need to get better, dialoguing as against just doling out instructions. We are learning to see through their eyes.
What do you love the most about all the many expressions of your purpose/passion?
Being able to touch lives individually – one person at a time.
What inspired you to venture into Counselling?
I am passionate about the family Unit, about the home front and wanted to lend my voice. But amazingly during my Family Systems Engineering certification programme, I realized I needed help myself. So I had to heal first so I do not bleed on the people that will be sent my way
Share what you love most about your work as a Counsellor and Therapist?
Seeing people’s lives transformed practically.
How important is a support system for a mum? Who is in your tribe and what kind of support do you have?
A support system is very important, so one can breathe and relax from time to time. The people in my circle, are people with the same shared values. I get support emotionally, and physically with work, and with guiding our children.
How do you balance work and parenting? Is it possible to achieve this?
I schedule both. I love routines, it works well for me. So I have days I connect with our children one-on-one. Yes, it is possible to balance both. This happens when you leverage on your support system
What has motherhood taught you about yourself?
I need to allow my children be who they have been created to be, not to put them in my mould, and allow them to express themselves fully.
What is one motherhood myth, you would like to burst?
A mother must sacrifice everything about herself.
Use one word to describe one thing that should not be missing from every home.
Share one self-care tip. How do you relax and spend time on yourself?
I go to the Spa for massage, pedicure, manicure and waxing.
Can you tell us how you stay stylish and your beauty routine?
I love to be simply elegant in my high-heeled shoes –pumps, peep toes, block heels. For my beauty routine – not a fan of so many beauty items, just a few essentials – get enough sleep, exfoliate every Saturday, daily use my face wash and apply my sunscreen.
What do you love about LagosMums?
It is a community for equipping women with work-life balance/ harmony strategies.
○ N1 Million or more sleep?
N1 Million as I already get enough sleep
○ Would you prefer to go on a shopping spree or an all-expense-paid trip to your dream destination?
An all-expense-paid trip to your dream destination
○ Homeschooling or traditional school.
○ A spa day or Eat out?
A spa day.
It was lovely learning more from our mum of the month, Ayodeji Oyinloye-Lawrence. Thank you for sharing with us. You can connect with Ayodeji Oyinloye-Lawrence here.
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