Our LagosMums mum of the month is Thelma Chiaka. She is a mum of six beautiful children and a devoted wife. We really enjoyed talking to her. Read more about this amazing mum as she shares her passions and her motherhood experience so far.
Please tell us about yourself?
My name is Ifeoma Thelma Chiaka, a self-driven woman, a wife and a mum. I believe in living a humble, kind and fulfilling life; being happy and making other people happy too. I love to listen to good music.
Can you share all the hats/roles that you wear?
I am a wife, a mum and a supportive partner.
What has surprised you the most about motherhood?
Motherhood is a beautiful experience. The single most surprising thing about motherhood was the degree to which I fell in love with each of my babies immediately.
What has motherhood taught you about yourself?
Motherhood made me realize the amount of inner strength that I never knew I had. Being a mum has taught me the act of patience, kindness, selflessness and commitment. Motherhood is more than wearing the title, its about wanting more for your children even if it is more than you’ve had.
What are the top three survival skills that LagosMums with multiple births need?
Stick to a schedule: One thing I learnt while our babies were in the Neo-natal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) was how important it is to establish schedules.They were already on a strict feeding schedule so I tried to follow suit when they came home. Try as much as possible to stick to a schedule because if you don’t, you will be constantly tending to babies and not getting enough rest.
Also, find a schedule that works for you. Always accept the gracious help of family and friends: accept as much help as you can because you really would need a lot. When your babies are all crying at the same time, just remember one thing; it does get better. Try to find humour in the situation and know that these precious gifts are definitely worth it.
How important is a support system for a mum? Who is in your tribe? What kind of support do you have now?
A good support system can never be over-emphasized. Whether you are a working mum or a stay-at-home mum, there are times you will need to rely on a support system to help you. For me, it’s my family and my loving friends.
Please share with us the kind of support you got during pregnancy?
I had a lot of support from my family. My husband was very supportive and he was there right from the beginning of the journey. I also got a lot of support from my workplace and friends.
How did you react when you found out you were having 6 babies?
We didn’t know we were having 6 babies. Initial scan showed 4. We only got to know they were six on the day of delivery. I was so excited having waited for some time for God to bless us with such beautiful gifts.
Can you tell us some of the funniest things your babies have done?
They all start dancing when a favourite nursery rhyme is playing.
Can you tell us how the pregnancy period and birth were like?
I had always looked forward to getting pregnant and when it came, I embraced it with all I had. I guess that made the journey pretty amazing. As for delivery, I had a wonderful team that did a good job and my babies came out within 9 minutes!
How do you balance work and 6 children?
I try to focus on the job while at work while staying connected in case my attention is needed at home. When at home, I try to make up for the long hours spent at work so I make it count.
What’s one thing you think your parents got absolutely right raising you that you would like to pass on as you bring up your own children?
My parents taught me the importance of discipline and it has helped me realize how to develop a good mental attitude to life.
Can you tell us how you stay stylish and your beauty routine?
My regular beauty routine is to cleanse, tone and moisturize. As for style, I try to keep it simple.
Use one word to describe the one thing that should not be missing from every home?
Share one self-care tip. How do you relax and spend time on yourself?
I try to get enough sleep – as much as I reasonably can – because it can have a huge effect on how one feels both emotionally and physically. I also listen to good music and love to watch movies.
What do you love about LagosMums?
I love LagosMums. It is a platform that encourages women to be the best in the different roles they play in society.
N1million or more sleep?
Go on a shopping spree or all expenses paid trip to your top destination?
- All expense trip to a top destination.
Homeschooling or traditional school?
- Traditional School.
A spa day or Eat out?
- A spa day!
Read Motherhood experiences and journeys of other mums in the Mum of The Month Category