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Letter to My Younger Self By Taiwo

Dear Taiwo,

I trust all is well with you and that this letter meets you in great faith.

I am in the future as a 35-year-old woman writing this letter to you, my past, to guide you on all the things you should have done differently and wishing someone could have told you earlier. I am not blaming anyone for not telling you, because now I realize times are different and they didn’t know themselves, so how could they have told you. They only told you what they knew and let’s be honest, if they told you differently, would you have listened?  Therefore, now that I have had a chance to live, learn and experience life, I will share with you, the things that you could have done and the areas that you should have focused on and did things differently.

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What I, your future wants to say to you, my past, is that you didn’t start out on the right path, which is okay, because God has forgiven you for the mistakes that you have made and remember, it is not always how you start that counts. The important thing in life, is how you finish and that is what I, your future, is happiest about. With all that we have learned, the experiences that we went through, the choices that we have made and decision to focus on God and put him first in everything that we do, I can assure you that through Christ that strengths us, we will finish great.

The best caption is Like Paul said in 2nd Timothy 4:7-8.” I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. And now the prize awaits me—the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give me on the day of his return. And the prize is not just for me but for all who eagerly look forward to his appearing.”

If I could rewind the hands of time, I share this wisdom with my renewed spiritual maturity lens concerning the following areas such as Faith, Time, Love, Money, Relationships, Career and Self-Esteem. These are very important so take note.

FAITH

As time has passed, I have come to the realisation that Mathew 6:33 was life changing. Today, we have a deep, intimate, and personal relationship with God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. By reading the word daily and spending time with the Holy spirit in fellowship, I know the truth and this truth has set you free.

Mathew 6:33. “Before all, Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”

The promises of Jeremiah 29:11-14, has given me the renewed strength that all will be well and we will continue to seek God’s will for our life, explore every opportunity, fullfill every dream and most importantly, pray that when it is our time to leave this world, we will go Empty. By focusing on the journey instead of the destination, I know with God’s promises, all our dreams will only continue to manifest.  I can’t even begin to tell you all the amazing things God has done in our lives thus far, just by focusing on these two scriptures.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. 12 In those days when you pray, I will listen. 13 If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. 14 I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes. I will gather you out of the nations where I sent you and will bring you home again to your own land.” (Jeremiah 29:11-14)

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TIME

There is a set time and age for everything in your life. Do things in order of priorities. Do not be so quick to do everything at once or too early.  Put God first in your life and all of your other priorities will fall into place.

LOVE

Love is the greatest.

I will say that with love, you will and can endure anything. Love is the greatest and first commandment. It is hard at times, it is something that I will continue to work on and you find out that as you continue to grow in your spiritual walk, it gets easier easier too.

“Love never gives up, never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstances. (1 Corinthians 13 -7)

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MONEY

When it comes to money. I would say that you should save as much as you can, buy what you need and not what you want, be content and save for the rainy days. I am a work in progress.

Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never you abandon you. (Hebrews 13:5)

RELATIONSHIPS

I have learned that, who you choose as a partner matters.  Be patient, pick wisely and pay attention to details. Speak your mind, stand up for yourself and understand that respect is key.

I have realised that if a man has the fear of God, it would be hard for him to hurt you. Therefore, I am thankful to God for my amazing husband who understands what it means to love unconditionally.

CAREER

Whatever you do. I would say do it well.  Be bold, follow your dreams, be passionate about your craft and be patient.

Success does not come overnight, so work hard, be content, don’t judge or compare others success with your own, thank God for everything, enjoy and learn the lessons along the way. If you miss the lesson, the destination will not be worth it.

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SELF-ESTEEM

Love yourself and pray about your self-esteem. Be thankful that you are wonderfully and fearfully made by God Almighty.  Stop complaining and change what you can, ask for the strength to accept the things you cannot and the wisdom to know the difference.

In conclusion, Younger me. These are just a few things that I pray you hold onto, so that one day you can share them with your daughter or son.  We cannot rewind the hands of time and thank God for the lessons learned, which have made you into a beautiful, hardworking, faithful, God-seeking woman that you are today.  You know God and made a promise to live the rest of your life seeking him and you understand that the plans that he has for you are for good and to prosper you. Therefore, love everyone, trust a few and do harm to no one.

I am proud of you and I love you.

Yours truly,

Taiwo Oniru-Akintokun

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