This 21st century is definitely a changing world and parenting has to be intentional and spiritual for one to raise Godly children. Spiritual Parenting is not just about “how to parent”, It’s more about how to view your role as a spiritually minded parent; the God-given role that is yours alone.
Below are key takeaways from Mrs Rapu who spoke at the 4th Annual LagosMums Parenting Conference and Exhibition about Spiritual Parenting.
1. Children should be taught to be confident in themselves:
Every child is unique and should be taught so. They are all different with inherent values, talents and skills. Avoid comparisons between children and harsh criticism.
2. Teach them to value others:
As they come to realize that they are unique, they should also learn to respect and value others irrespective of their status in life. Tell them they are privileged and with those privileges come responsibility and the need to be respectful.
3. Teach them that they are called to lead and not to follow:
Teach them that it is okay to say NO and to be different. They should be trained to be confident in leadership. They should stand for what they believe in. As parents, we should ensure that what they believe in mirrors the principles of HONESTY and INTEGRITY.
4. Set boundaries very early in their lives:
Liberty should be increased based on their sense of responsibility. Appropriate rewards for exemplary responsibility will also encourage a child.
5. Discipline(Punitive and Non-Punitive):
Try not to discipline in anger. Also, do not make empty threats. There should be a balanced approach to discipline. For instance, as a child grows older, parents should learn to communicate/reason more and punish less.
The punishment should be proportionate to the wrong. Discipline should be consistent and parents should not send conflicting signals. Discipline should create intimacy and not distance, such that the child knows to come back and apologize.
6. Lines of Communication should be kept open:
When talking to your children, don’t be alarmed at whatever you hear. Don’t be judgmental, keep an open mind. Stay calm and give practical answers as much as possible. Also, know their friends and families of their friends.
7. Build a safe village around them:
It takes a village to raise a child. Teach them how to avoid inappropriate touches from anyone and to speak up if it ever happens.
8. Model what you want them to learn:
Don’t be different from what you are trying to teach them. Children tend to mirror what they see than listen to what they are told to do. Walk your talk.
Have you signed up for the LagosMums Parenting Conference and Exhibition 2018? This is an example of the parenting conversations we will be having with Parenting experts, psychologists, counsellors, educationists… Be there!