Generally, we can agree on some common seasonal characteristics. For example, when it comes to Spring; this means a season of fresh or new love. This can be recognized as when there is a lot of promise for the future and love is at its height. And perhaps more idealistic than realistic.
Next is Summer and when your love is comfortable and relaxed, perhaps even heating up. Everyone is happy in the summer and you are generally in a happy place.
Fall will be when your love needs some tending so that all the branches don’t fall off in true “Fall” fashion. It can be beautiful in some parks during the fall. Or when all the various hues of leaves have fallen on a pile and children enjoy kicking and playing in the fallen leaves. In the fall there can be some enjoyment of the season.
Lastly in the winter, the marriage can get chilly. However you can enjoy lots of cuddling to keep yourself warm. It doesn’t have to be an icy time.
Understanding the seasons
Based on the quick overview above, the seasons can represent different stages f a marriage. Spring can be when you are starting out, summer when you are glowing and comfortable, perhaps with children, fall might be when children are leaving the house and you are left with your spouse, winter is when you are getting on in years, and the children are out of the house. At this stage you look forward to welcoming your grandchildren to the house.
Marriage Seasons in Nigeria
Now what about marriage seasons in the true Nigerian fashion? How do we categorize the seasons of the Nigerian marriage? First of all in Nigeria, we only have wet and dry seasons! So let us bring this home so we can relate. Because after all, not everyone has necessarily experienced the western seasons. What we have here are Wet and Dry seasons.
Wet season is when we have rain, rain and more rain. We also suffer flooding on the streets and depending on where you live or how heavy the rain is, your compound and house might also get flooded. During the rainy season your crops also grow quite easily, and there is no need for artificial irrigation because the plants and flowers get all the rain they need. Our dams are also full of water and this means we have PHCN releasing more KWH (or we hope so)!
The rainy season does bring some challenges. For example, children can be more susceptible to colds. The rain causes dust particles to float into the air causing respiratory issues. Old trees can become uprooted during heavy downpours. Gutters can get overflown causing pedestrians and cars to fall into ditches. Stagnant water in gutters leads to breeding grounds of mosquitoes.
So how does this relate to your marriage?
Rain and floods can represent torrents of love or torrents of drama. This can represent a time in your marriage when you are having loads of love, growth, development. It can be a time when you are nurturing your marriage, resulting in happiness to both spouses and your families.
However if you are not in a good place in your marriage either because of various challenges such as financial, raising children and others, this season can be a challenging time for the marriage. And it can be matched by a “torrent” of problems. As they say when it rains it pours.
If you do not manage this season properly and tend your marriage you can have weeds and lots of mosquitoes in your life. Your goal during the Wet season of your marriage should be to get an umbrella and shield yourself from the rain. It also involves avoiding stagnation, which breeds multiple unsavory conditions. Be sure to keep tending and enjoy the benefits of good torrents!
Now on to the Dry season which is usually accompanied with harmattan and is signified by lack of rain, harsh weather (dry lips, dry skin, dry hair), increase in fog levels and increase in dust levels. On the other side, it is nice and cool and a respite from the heat. If not managed properly with exposure to the elements, there can be increases in dust related ailments such as colds or asthma.
During this season there is an increased need for constant moisturising to combat dry skin, brittle hair and chapped lips.
For your marriage, the dry season means exactly that it can be dry, Brittle and fuzzy. This is a season for you to put more effort in tending your marriage; you need to keep it well moisturized. It can represent a cool time for your marriage – this cooling down can be good and bad, it can be good cooling down from the heat of arguments and challenges. However it can also be the cooling down in the love department, which is not necessarily healthy for the physical and emotional needs of the marriage.
You can decide if you prefer the Nigerian version of marriage seasons. Share on X
You can decide if you prefer the Nigerian version of marriage seasons. Perhaps you might find it easier to manage because it is either WET or DRY! However what we know is that it is important to figure out which season represents your marriage at any given time. Because this way you can determine what “tending” strategies you need to navigate the season.
So no matter the weather make sure you tend, weed, moisturize, nurture, protect, pray and love!
Reposted from website romancemeetslife
