Are you really ready to achieve the ultimate this year?
Ena couldn’t believe her eyes. She was married to the man of her dreams for six blissful months. They had so much support from family and friends. There was so much to eat and drink. The wedding was the talk of the town. She even has a copy where they took 4 pages to cover both the traditional and white wedding.
She knew she was the envy of all her friends both married and unmarried. From her attire, to the elegance of her events and to add the icing, the honeymoon in Dubai. She was in her husband’s beautiful terraced duplex surrounded by the good things of life and having invitations to all the exclusive parties in town. What could be better than this?
Chichi turned over again. She couldn’t help but move her hand over her now-empty stomach. She didn’t know how long she could take this. “Why does this keep happening to me?” she wept silently. She had lost the sixth pregnancy four months ago. Her husband of 3 years was the most patient and loving man she had ever met but she wondered how long before he bowed to the pressures of his family. They weren’t keen on an inter-tribal marriage in the first place. Time was ticking and every smile of hers was getting plastic.
Two ladies different situations. Stuck in the same place. In the past.
2018 may have held the most beautiful memories for you or the very worst. But it is gone. You had your highs, yes. What you should be concerned about now should be, is there a way I can make this year better?
You experienced incredible growth in your business or even had a promotion at the office. Its okay to give yourself a pat on the back. But please Move on. Too many people make terrible mistakes just after a success. They get careless, negligent and the very thing that saw them to the limelight (hard work) is pushed to the curb.
It’s not time to settle. It’s time for even more work.
The reward for a job well done is the opportunity to do even more – Anonymous
So cut out the celebrations and get busy.
So your 2018 was not so great. It’s no use brooding over things you can’t change. I absolutely love quotes and this one gets me every time.
“God give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference” – Reinhold Niebuhr
When you lost a loved one, or suffered some financial loss, or have irreparable injuries from a near-fatal accident, those things you can’t change. You have to find a way to live with those pains and become a better person as a result.
My favourite book, the Bible has this to say
…but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead. (Phil 3:13, NLT)
If it’s something you can change, then for goodness sake, do something about it. Your constant whining about the matter won’t get you the desired results. On the contrary, you would have people run away from you because you carry negative energy around.
- Take a moment. And tell yourself the truth of where you are.
- Identify the next step to take.
- Take the step. Make the call.
Write down your goals. They may be for the whole year, or they may be for one month. You will experience renewed confidence in yourself when you set goals and accomplish them.
Don’t let the stress of the daily grind get you wondering where all the work is headed.
Be purposeful about your plans and actions and trust me, things will begin to fall in place for you.
- I recently wrote a post about goals. Check here to see a template you can use. Your goals shouldn’t just be financial. You should have goals for your family, for your own personal development, in fact every aspect of your life. So that you live as a balanced Lagos Mum, doing great physically, spiritually, emotionally and in your relationships with family and friends.
How do you set goals?
The best way to approach goal setting is to use this acronym SMART. It brings structure and helps you keep track of goals and objectives.
S – Specific
M – Measurable
A – Action-Oriented
R – Realistic
T – Time bound
For example, you can’t say I want to lose weight by the end of this year. Chances are that you would never lose weight. But if you rather say, I want to lose 10kg by the end of this year. It is specific. Your mind registers it as such and you empower yourself to fulfil it.
A smart goal goes further to break it down into smaller action steps. For example, I want to lose 1kg every month. And so, at the end of every month, you conduct a check. Did you lose 1kg? If yes, great. If no, then you know that you are likely not going to achieve the overall goal by the end of the year.
You need to describe your goals in action points. Outline the exact steps you will take to accomplish the goal. In our example, you can say, I will go for a walk every day for 30mins.
There is nothing worse than seeing yourself fail at something over and over. Give yourself the opportunity to succeed at your goals by setting goals that you are sure to accomplish. Goals that are achievable. Here you take into consideration your strengths and weaknesses, family and any other thing that could impact your goals. For example, if you have to leave home early and close late, then taking a walk wouldn’t cut it. So you might need to think of either getting a treadmill or signing up with a gym class you can attend before work begins.
This refers to when you expect to get result. This is what every other thing revolves round. We’ve been using it in all our examples. Leaving it open ended might just mean you would never achieve it.
Do you already have your goals? What’s the biggest thing you look forward to seeing in your life this year? Share with us in the comments.
Contributed by: Ruth Zubairu
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