When you are a happy mum you are a more effective parent. Mums need certain things to thrive. Who else agrees? Mums tend to take care of everyone else and can tend to neglect herself, with the challenges of Lagos, work-life balance and all the various demands. Here are some tips for how a mum can be happier.
Have a Personal Relationship with God
This is where it all starts. Spending time with God, praying and studying the word helps you to stay grounded and focused. Many times prayer and meditation are necessary to give you a sense of peace and give you the wisdom that is needed to raise children and care for a family. Praying for yourself should be something you do as well, pray for wisdom, clarity and for God to help you achieve your purpose.
Cultivate a strong support system
A strong support system is important. Mums you are not a superwoman and it is okay to ask for help to get all the things you need to get done. Your support system should include your spouse, domestic staff, friends, grandparents and people who you can rely on. Be comfortable asking for help and getting help from the right sources.
Understand that season’s change
Life is in seasons. For new mums remember that the sleepless nights will end as your baby grows older. The way your child needs you as a toddler is very different as they grow older and get more independent. It is important for mums to remember this, the demands of parenting and motherhood do change over time and it does get easier.
Continue to work on your dreams and goals
While being a mum is one of the most important lives you can have, it is important not to forget to work on oneself as well. So stay focused on your goals and take steps daily to achieve them. When you feel fulfilled you are happier as a person. #NotOnlyMrsandMum
Your gifts, talents and dreams do not die because you became a mother. They are still valid and you can still achieve them. In reality, you would need to manage your expectations but with proper planning, you can achieve more than you think.
Get Quality sleep
(Yes we know it can be hard…) but resting is one of the biggest challenges a new mum faces, while it might be tough it is very necessary. Mums should get help when they can and also ensure to get rest when their baby is also sleeping. Sometimes you need to turn off social media and get the sleep you need.
Self-Care is important
A mums all-round well being and mental health are critical to being a happy mum. One of the best stress-busters is taking the time to have fun and to laugh. So be intentional and make time regularly to recharge and do something that helps you relax. This could be as simple as listening to music or going on a solo retreat or trip once in a while. When was the last time you did something for yourself?
For you to be a happy mum you need to know that guilt is the biggest thief of joy! Mums can be riddled with guilt. Working Mums feel guilty when they miss a play at school, stay at home mums feels guilty that they are not earning and contributing to the family. You get the idea, when you feel guilty you do not enjoy the moment. One great tip is to stay true to yourself and determine what you need and what your family needs at every given time. Make the adjustments as necessary and just do your best.
Quality time with your family
We are natural nurturers and spending quality time with the family is one of the ways that a mum can feel connected with her family. So take the time to spend time bonding with your family regularly. One of the best ways to do this is to develop family rituals together and spend time doing things the whole family enjoys. Setting limits when it comes to screen time will definitely help with this.
Not every time mummy duties. Intentionally make time to nurture your relationships, your relationship with your spouse, your relationship with your friends. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and make you a better person. This is a good time to assess those in your circle and reduce the toxic relationships in your life.
Who else agrees? What are some of the ways that you ensure you take care of yourself as a mum, wife and balance all the other demands of life?
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