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What are the things to know about Parenting in the Digital Age

Parenting our children in this digital age is not about sheltering them from the harshness of the world. It’s about preparing them to thrive in a complex and challenging reality; whether you are new to parenting or have raised children for years.

LagosMums hosted a parenting upgrade masterclass, themed “Parenting 3.0”; where we had amazing speakers talk about all things parenting.

parenting digital The Parenting 3.0 was a success filled with great insights on parenting. Interesting points on grieving were shared as Titilola Balogun spoke on grieving and how our children can respond or be affected by it. Yetty Williams Spoke on the things you need to know when parenting in the digital age. Lanre Olusola highlighted the three mindset types available.

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We will be focusing on the highlight from Yetty Williams’s aspect of the masterclass; where she discusses what parents need to know about parenting their children in the digital age. Here is her take on the discussion:

What Citizenship does your Child hold?

Digital and technology have become such a part of our lives. This seems to be the biggest struggle when it comes to dealing with children today. 

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They are right at home under your roof, because they have access to the internet, they are getting new ideas and information; they are being influenced by several sources. 

Anybody can start a movement from any part of the world, and your children sitting in your living room in Nigeria could very well be listening to that. We need to realize that citizenship for our children is global, they are global citizens. They are no more held by geography or borders. It is a borderless world; that means that your children can connect with anybody, and work anywhere in the world.

So you want to start having some conversations with your children and find out the state of their mind.  What do they really believe? What are they listening to and consuming online? 

You might just find out that your Nigerian born and bred child, has more of an American or British mindset; they might be advocates of black lives matter and a mix of several other ideas. 

New Habits and How they are Formed

Now, the pandemic has brought a lot of new habits; research shows that it takes about 66 days to form a new habit. Let that sink in. So through the pandemic and the lockdown, working from home and learning from home for a year; there are some new habits your family and children have picked up. That means your whole family dynamics; your style, your children’s dynamics, how they see the world and their habits, have all changed.

So imagine now that as a parent, you are using the same parenting style, rules, or methodology that you were using a year ago; it might not be as effective.

It is all very different because we’ve all gone through and are still in the midst of a life-changing situation. So you cannot be parenting from where you were parenting before. it’s really important that we keep that in mind.

As parents, we need to unlearn some things so that we can then go on to relearn; and replace ineffective parenting styles with more effective ones. Parents are the real influencers. - Yetty Williams Click To Tweet

The Future of Jobs

Research shows that a lot of the jobs that our children will have in the future have not even been created yet. So what does that mean for us? It means we need to be aware of the changing future. It is not uncommon today to hear a child say he or she wants to be an influencer, or YouTuber, or e-sporter. 

Parents are meant to nurture their children for the future (not for the past they knew); but many times, through ignorance, lack of understanding, and empathy for the age our children are in, we take ourselves out of the equation. This is because most parents do not speak their language in the way that they understand.

We need to understand the rules of the digital age, which means that the future of jobs is different. Parents must understand their child’s unique interests, gifts and talents. For example, because you have a law firm, please don’t force your child to study law.

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Things are changing; companies like Google and Apple, are not even requiring your typical degree any longer to hire. They are hiring based on skills. All parents must research, and find out what the World Economic Forum has listed as the top 10 skills required to succeed in the workforce by 2025. 

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Effects of the Digital World

Our children, the Digital natives don’t know a world that is pre-digital. We are history makers as parents today because we are a set of parents who have one leg in the analogue world and one in the digital world. So it is our job to teach our children why a world outside of screens is critical. 

Reports show that teenagers and young adults are more lonely than older generations. This is because they might have 1000 virtual friends, but they have zero friends when it comes to somebody they feel they can really call on.

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Addiction levels are up, speaking specifically when it comes to screen time, social media, and video games addiction. Every time a child shares something on social media and get those likes; they get a dopamine hit. This hormone release creates a cycle to want more and more. 

There are other behaviours coming out of excessive screen time that all parents want to be aware or. We discussed these and more in the masterclass. 

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Digital Footprint

As a parent, you should know your child’s digital footprint is being formed from the day they are born. When you go shopping for baby clothes and they ask you for their details? this all forms part of your chid’s digital footprints. So let’s realize that from day one, our children’s lives are being lived online. And parents should be aware that they are giving digital information out that can come back to bite them in the future. 

As a parent, you should know your child's digital footprint is being formed from the day they are born. Click To Tweet

Video Games and Aggression

Aggression is also increasing because a lot of children playing video games now they’re getting something called an aggression bias. This is something that psychologists have studied, and are discovering that children are becoming much more aggressive because of the nature of video games they are playing.

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The World Health Organization has identified gaming disorder as an addictive behaviour. 

So you have to pay attention to your children who like playing video games. As mentioned earlier new habits have been formed during this year at home. Therefore, parents cannot afford to be permissive or ignorant in the digital age, it does not work.

we cannot afford to be permissive or ignorant in the digital age, it does not work Click To Tweet

Setting Goals for Digital Wellbeing

You need to balance an online versus the offline world. It’s okay to be online, but you got to have an offline life side by side. Have real conversations with your children, and drop the drama; loud exclamations and panic are not the way to go; even if it is something that’s shocking. The way you approach your child is really important to make all the difference.

parenting digital Parental software is critical but use appropriately. You don’t want to go and try and implement parental software at the wrong age; it is going to blowback in your face. 

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Between the ages, 0 - 10, is the perfect age to make sure you put in all the work so that your child understands how to self regulate, and the importance of having digital well-being as part of their lives. Click To Tweet

Quality of Content

Think about the quality of content versus the quantity. Not all online activity is the same. Some are junk, some are good. It’s just like junk food, nobody can eat doughnuts and hamburgers every day, and be healthy is the same thing with online, there’s a good and a bad.

Not all online activity is the same. Some are junk, some are good. It's just like junk food, nobody can eat doughnuts and hamburgers every day, and be healthy is the same thing with online, there's a good and a bad Click To Tweet

So please teach them about the quality of content online, what are they consuming? Why are they online? Check their mood when they get off, Are they sad? Are they excited when they get off, are they suffering from FOMO, Fear Of Missing Out?

Families need to have digital sunsets; which is bedtime for all your devices. Yes, including you mom and dad, this is because you are the best influencers and role models. You need to get off your devices and make sure your children are getting quality sleep. So no phones, no laptops in their rooms, period, because they’re so addictive.


The idea is when you’re setting your SMART goals for the family, you want to make sure that they are; Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound. And you can do this for your family’s digital well-being. 

Setting Family Goals

Reduce the Tension

Reduce the tension by not parenting from a disempowered place or from a lack of knowledge. You want to be relevant, you want to be trending, you want to have a plan. If you tell them to get off screens; be able to tell them why? and agree on what the offline alternatives are. 

And lastly is just to keep upgrading. It’s an ongoing conversation because online safety and digital well-being are critical. So you need to have a plan around that, you need to avoid being a permissive digital parent.

If you want to continue to learn, I have a parenting nugget, where on a daily basis, we cover what you need to know when it comes to raising children in the 21st century. Something new is always coming up like the concept of “selfie dysmorphia” we discussed in the masterclass. 

New things keep coming out that we must stay ahead of and have relevant conversations. And guess what it does when you are relevant? it helps your children know that I can go to my parents when something new happens or bothers me. 

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