Do you know that you have CONTROL over your moods, feelings and emotions? Do you know that with the right doseOfDOSE you can regulate your moods, feelings and emotions? D.O.S.E stands for Dopamine; Oxytocin; Serotonin and Endorphins
Below are 8 ways to BoostyourDoseofDOSE – Oxytocin
Tip 1: Be CONTENT with your own life
What is CONTENTMENT? According to Wikipedia, it is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction maybe drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind
Here are a few tips to finding CONTENTMENT:
1. Be grateful and thankful for your situation and life (Small and Big)
2. Every night, write 10 things you’re Grateful and Thankful for, for that day.
3. Take control of your attitude. Attitude is Everything… Have a positive Attitude towards ALL things
4. Stop comparing yourself to others. We are ALL UNIQUE and Blessed.
5. Embrace your Uniqueness and Gifts. Be Yourself Always.
6. Know that more possession, money, sex, power, drugs, alcohol, etc will NEVER satisfy a discontent soul
7. Live a life of transcendency i.e Help others live their dreams or attain their goals
8. Appreciate and Celebrate where you are now.
Finally, understand that:
Who you are, How you see yourself, How you feel about yourself, What you think, What you believe, What you do today, Will CREATE your tomorrow. , So with CONTENTMENT, you give yourself a great chance to succeed.
Tip 2: Studies have shown that getting creative is a great way to de-stress your mental mind
Whilst you’re creating, worry, anxiety and fear are far from your mind. Boost your oxytocin level by increasing your creativity. Doing things such as painting, singing, drawing, sewing, writing, playing an instrument or something outside of your normal routine will help this “feel good hormone” take over your brain.
What creative thing will you do today?
Tip 3: What is your Self Perception Quotient (S.P.Q)? How do you see yourself relative to others?
In comparison to others, in the area of your character, achievements, core competencies and personal skills, how do you feel? Find your own S.P.Q SPOT (In comparison to others in the areas of: character, achievements, core competencies & personal skills, how do you feel? .Outstanding – 8 Points .Excellent – 7 Points .Very Good – 6 Points .Good – 5 Points .Average – 4 Points .Just Okay – 3 Points .Bad – 2 Points .Very Poor – 1)
Self Perception is the way we see, hear, become aware of ourselves relative to others and things around us. Your Self Perception Quotient reveals exactly how you rate yourself, based on how you see and judge yourself relative to others
What will you score yourself below?
1. When you think about yourself, relative to others what do you think of the most?
Is it ALWAYS Positive, Neutral or Negative?
2. When you see yourself, what or who do you see? Do you see yourself as someone you accept or as someone you want to change?
3. How do your think you look or are beside others? What do you imagine people think about you, when they see you?
All the above questions give you an accurate assessment of your SPQ
Overall is it mostly Positive, Neutral or Negative? If it is Negative or Neutral, reach out to a Life Coach NOW at CoachME.lifexone.org to get coached for FREE in the area of your SPQ. YOU NEED HELP if you’re in social settings and you constantly berate yourself, feel judged and picture people ridiculing you, these are signs of very Low SPQ
Here are a few tips on how to improve your Self Perception Quotient (SPQ)
1. Identify the negative perceptions you have of yourself
2. Challenge yourself and step outside your negative zone
3. Replace those negative thoughts with positive empowering thoughts
4. Identify, Magnify and Focus ONLY on your good qualities and strengths
5. Know that you are Unique, therefore Accept and Love Yourself Just the way you are
6. Compliment yourself regularly and be grateful for your little and mighty achievements as well as your Life
Many people FAIL in Life simply because they have very low SPQ.
BEaWARE: What you think about and how you see yourself is a Self Fulfilling PROPHESY; It will MANIFEST for SURE
Tip 4: Social interaction is a fundamental feature of life. For social order to be possible, effective social interaction must also be possible
In one of the recent studies on the health benefits of social relationships, researchers provided evidence that social ties and increased contact with family and friends are associated with a lower risk of death in young women with breast cancer. Good Health, Life and Longevity are associated with Social Interaction.
Another research reports that quality social interaction is associated with surviving heart surgery. What’s more, a 2010 meta-analysis of 148 other studies showed that social connection and interaction doesn’t just help us survive health problems BUT the lack of it causes them.
So what are the benefits of social interaction?
1. It improves the immune system. Research shows that the lack of social interaction can negatively lead to first signs of depression and anxiety
2. Social interactions are a form of informal education, it plays a pivotal role in improving overall growth and development of an individual.
3. BEWARE of mobile phones, tablets, games etc, they eliminate social interaction ESPECIALLY in children
4. Social interactions provide a great opportunity to understand various kinds of people, their mannerisms, personalities, thought processes and so on
5. Social interactions help reduce shyness and hesitance from an individual making them ready to face the world in a smart manner
6. Physical interaction with friends and family provides happiness and joy, as you can share issues and emotions more explicitly
7. It’s a great way of giving and getting emotional, physical and spiritual support
Few tips to improve your social interaction • Be confident • Have an opinion on whatever is being discussed • Find out what other people want to talk about, know what’s trending • Have good body language, watch your posture. Arms folded or crossed, or a slouched sitting posture signifies, lack of interest or that you are keeping to yourself. • Surround yourself with people with similar interests and likes
Boost your oxytocin by enjoying social interactions. Heavy use of social media is linked to mental illness. When it comes to social networking, actual conversations are hard to beat. Drop your phone, have real conversations and interact with people more. Social interactions are good for your emotional and mental health
Tip 5: “Empathy (n). the power of entering into another’s personality and imaginatively experiencing his experiences” – Chambers English Dictionary, 1989 edition
Empathy goes beyond sympathy. With sympathy, you “feel for” the person while with empathy you “feel with” the other person. A study conducted by the University of Wisconsin showed that people who work to improve their empathy experienced less negative emotions, such as resentment and anger and consequently increased their happy experiences and getting to a healthier state of mind. The higher your level of empathy, warmth and trust, the easier it is to cope with life’s ups and downs.
NOTE: Don’t forget to be the first beneficiary of your empathy, warmth and trust. practice self-empathy above all.
Tip 6: To boost your Oxytocin level, have great sex, cuddle converse afterwards
Am I talking about sex? No. But I’m talking about what you need to do just after sex to boost your dose of oxytocin. Researchers at universities in Toronto conducted 2 studies:
Study 1 was with 335 participants, 138 men and 197 women, all of whom were in romantic relationships. This research was about relationship and sexual satisfaction, their sex lives, and affection. Surprisingly, sex duration and foreplay didn’t predict relationship satisfaction, but post-coital cuddling did.
Researchers found that people who spend more time on post-sex affection like cuddling, kissing, caressing, spooning, or expressing their love for each other are more satisfied in their relationships and feel more sexually satisfied. This is especially true for couples with kids.
Benefits of kissing, cuddling, spooning after sex:
1. It makes for a happier relationship: cuddling releases oxytocin, which is basically your “good time” hormone. Not only does the hormone run rampant during cuddle sessions, but, it increases your overall happiness
2. It Boosts Affection: The intimacy that comes with cuddling, especially after sex, cannot be rivaled by pretty much anything in the world. Not only does cuddling make for better affection, but it also allows us to communicate our affections without words, when words sometimes fail us
3. It’s Good For Your Immune System: Oxytocin helps us feel good, since the body and mind are the same, feeling good within yourself can translate to feeling good physically
4. It Helps Relieve Pain: The oxytocin released during cuddling can actually ease pain in individuals. It’s a perfect combination of hormones and cuddles that can make a physical (or even emotional) ache bearable. Hugging, kissing, or more physical acts of touch increases oxytocin levels, which is a ‘bonding’ hormone—this chemical reaction can help to reduce blood pressure, reduces the risk of heart disease and can also help to reduce stress and anxiety
So ensure you’re not just a hit and run kind of person. It’s not just about the act of sex, what you do after is very important… in some cases, even more important #BoostYourDoseofDOSE